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Re: The Gossip Meme
Dec. 5th, 2005 07:18 pm...Which I removed, since it was causing more trouble than it was worth.
This is not an easy subject for me to talk about, since it's extremely personal, and the issue at stake is something that's very emotionally painful.
Several years ago, my mother confronted my grandmother (her mother) about the sexual abuse which she (my mother)suffered at the hands of her father (my grandmother's rat bastard of a husband, aka the poster for the problem drinker), which her mother did nothing to stop, and which directly caused my mother's severe depression/PTSD. During the confrontation, my grandmother acknowledged that her husband had done terrible things to his family, not just to my mother, but to several other of her siblings; but afterwards, my grandmother turned around and told the rest of her children that my mother had been "the other woman" in the family relationship and that she'd been "asking for" the sexual abuse. Several versions of the story came back to us, and some of my mother's childhood friends stopped talking to her entirely on account of it.
The abuse happened when my mother was four years old. How the hell could she have been "asking for it"? ( Cut for extremely adult language. Do not click unless you are over 17 ) We've had to cut ties with my mother's side of the family, since they only want to believe the lies their mommie told them, instead of hearing the truth.
Anyone here have a picture file of Geoff Darrrow's concept art for the Power Plants in the "Matrix" series? Because I'm tempted to caption it "The Dunn Family Tree" and put the names of my mother's relatives under the coppertops in the pods.
This is not an easy subject for me to talk about, since it's extremely personal, and the issue at stake is something that's very emotionally painful.
Several years ago, my mother confronted my grandmother (her mother) about the sexual abuse which she (my mother)suffered at the hands of her father (my grandmother's rat bastard of a husband, aka the poster for the problem drinker), which her mother did nothing to stop, and which directly caused my mother's severe depression/PTSD. During the confrontation, my grandmother acknowledged that her husband had done terrible things to his family, not just to my mother, but to several other of her siblings; but afterwards, my grandmother turned around and told the rest of her children that my mother had been "the other woman" in the family relationship and that she'd been "asking for" the sexual abuse. Several versions of the story came back to us, and some of my mother's childhood friends stopped talking to her entirely on account of it.
The abuse happened when my mother was four years old. How the hell could she have been "asking for it"? ( Cut for extremely adult language. Do not click unless you are over 17 ) We've had to cut ties with my mother's side of the family, since they only want to believe the lies their mommie told them, instead of hearing the truth.
Anyone here have a picture file of Geoff Darrrow's concept art for the Power Plants in the "Matrix" series? Because I'm tempted to caption it "The Dunn Family Tree" and put the names of my mother's relatives under the coppertops in the pods.